Shibari: how to learn about its pleasures?

Today, people are no longer satisfied with the classic positions during sex. They want to increase their pleasure even more by indulging in erotic games or more spicy practices. One of the most popular is shibari, which was popularised by the film 50 Shades of Grey. Find out what you need to know about shibari.

Shibari: what does it mean?

Shibari is an ancient technique practiced by the Japanese, or more precisely by the Samurai. Also called “bondage technique”, it appeared around the 1400s. In the past, it was practiced on prisoners as a punishment. They were tied up with ropes, using techniques that only the samurai knew how to do. The aim was to prevent them from escaping. The way of tying up the criminals was different, depending on the degree of their crimes. It even had to be done according to certain rules, so that the tying up was perfect. Basically, shibari is a real bondage art.

Shibari: how to get started with this sexual practice?

Shibari, as a sexual act, has long been reserved for the initiated. But later on, it gained ground with the public. Today, anyone can practice it. However, before indulging in this art, certain rules must be respected.

Shibari consists of tying up your partner by bondage. To do this, you can use many accessories such as handcuffs, ropes or even belts for the most daring. After tying up your partner, avoid hurting him/her.

You can practice shibari during foreplay, but also during sex. In fact, there are some perfect positions to go with it. These include the starry missionary or the one-armed Andromache.

To further stimulate the pleasure, you can also add erotic scenes such as the prisoner or nurse game.

Shibari: what do you need to know before you do it?

Although shibari provides a lot of pleasure for both men and women, it is still a rather risky practice. Indeed, it can lead to serious consequences if one does not know the right techniques. Before practising it, you must therefore inform yourself about the right gestures to adopt to tie up your partner. Among these gestures, it is recommended to avoid tightening the ropes too much because this can block the blood circulation of the tied person. You should also avoid tightening risky areas such as the neck in order to avoid the risk of strangulation.

Certain limits should also be respected. Masochistic practices such as strangulation or suicidal tying are prohibited. The latter are considered acts of violence. In order for the couple to have a unique moment of discovery thanks to shibari, it is important to respect the other’s desire. If one of the partners is not comfortable with a particular position or gesture, they should not be forced to accept it. The aim is above all to strengthen the couple’s complicity in bed. In this case, it is important to understand and trust each other.